tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2003329950316418360.post3463664319618748479..comments2023-09-30T07:19:22.053-07:00Comments on Saving My Life: Last Saturday w/ My MomKimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13717571306196215906noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2003329950316418360.post-48461414137112114882010-04-30T18:26:58.210-07:002010-04-30T18:26:58.210-07:00eh, I have nothing to say on that.
I guess time wi...eh, I have nothing to say on that.<br />I guess time will tell with the boyfriend thing.<br />Maybe she is getting older and knows she wasn't the mother she should have been.<br />I hope that is the case. Hugs.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2003329950316418360.post-30779925977187371552010-04-30T10:21:48.884-07:002010-04-30T10:21:48.884-07:00I don't get to see my mom very much because sh...I don't get to see my mom very much because she is too busy taking care of my brother's two kids, and her life is all about them. I've lived at my current home for 5 years, and she has been out here maybe twice a year. When we were kids she was sort of the same way - my dad got all her free time. They are still married but hate each other, so that's not an issue anymore. It's not just me though, she has been to visit my sister out of state ONCE only, and my other brother is so mad at her he hasn't spoken to her in like 6 years. I will never ignore my daughter the way my mom has done to me.Aunt Juiceboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09312942310632639442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2003329950316418360.post-45952702807206051272010-04-30T09:08:05.337-07:002010-04-30T09:08:05.337-07:00Yeah, that's definitely part of it. You're...Yeah, that's definitely part of it. You're very intuitive. :) The other part is her nerves are bad, she didn't have a good model of a mother herself, and she doesn't think any of her "grown up" kids should need her anymore.<br /> I'm so sorry you've got a lot of questions unanswered. I know that's really tough. Maybe another way to look at it though is maybe having some of those answers might be tougher than the questions themselves. As a child who knew too much about what was going on behind the scenes, I think I wouldn't have minded having some questions left unanswered. lol Of course, I lived in some pretty strange and bad circumstances though. lolKimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13717571306196215906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2003329950316418360.post-63638522195577344322010-04-30T03:39:17.905-07:002010-04-30T03:39:17.905-07:00Love the shoes !
One possibility with your mom th...Love the shoes ! <br />One possibility with your mom that you may not have considered- your mom may find when she is with you she is too reminded of how dis-empowered she had become and she does not feel secure enough in herself yet to face her old relationship patterns. Breaking free of a bad situation is hard, but harder still is learning to accept the person that you were in that situation and coming to terms with it. That is deep level healing, and it is the hardest work at all. It seems like this is what is going on- your mom has nothing against you, but everything against the person whom she was in that marriage and she is uncomfortable with things that might prove to be reminders of some of those inner demons. I do not have a close relationship with my mom or dad, but I am almost a clone for my father in looks and personality. When my father died in 2004 , my relationship with my mom got a little weirder because I was so much of a reminder of my dad it hurt at times. My mom now has dementia, and sadly it is only her body that remains as my mother . Her mind is gone and I am left with a lot of questions that will never be answeredDihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04694756762570280051noreply@blogger.com